14 Years Ago and my perspective on men

Do you remember where you were 14 years ago today? I do. I was getting ready for one of the biggest days of my life. I was excited, unexplainable calm, and very naive...but 14 years later I am more sure than ever that it was one of the best decisions of my life....14 years ago today I married my wonderful husband.
I have thought a lot recently about the imagine of men portrayed on our TVs, in our music, and sadly even in our churches. It is not a pleasant picture. I think of shows where Tim the tool man Taylor where Tim is this incredibly naive man who thinks he can do anything and yet is wife is this brilliant woman who loves him anyway. Don't get me wrong, I have had plenty of laughs at Tim's expense but I started thinking why is that funny?
For years the enemy had us believing women had no place, men were in control and women could do nothing. When that lie wore out, he just changed it up. Now he has us believing that women are the smarter, tougher gender, and really in control. What? You don't think that? Then let me ask you this. What if we portrayed women in TV shows the way men are being portrayed or better yet what if we changed the context to black and white rather than men and women? What if we started cutting down people based on religion rather than gender?
When was the last time you went to church on Mother's Day and heard a message preached about what Mother's are doing wrong? On the flip side when was the last time you went to church on Father's day and heard a message on what men weren't doing right? The later seems to happen on a regular basis. When in our nation did it become such a bad thing to be a man?
I agree I don't want a man completely oblivious to my needs, that mindlessly goes to work, comes home, sits on the couch and demands I serve his every need nor do I want a man that bows to my every whim, leaves me to make the decisions, and is afraid to stand up for what he believes in if it is different from what I think. I know there are men out there like that, but I think we have forgotten the power of our words. T
he Bible says there is life and death in the power of our tongue. Others have said we are what we say, presented the idea of self-fulfilling prophesy, or maybe notion that people will live up to your expectation. Maybe if our nation would stop portraying men as stupid, they would stop acting stupid. Maybe they would step up to the plate and be the man and father God had called them to be. Maybe if we would honor good fathers as much in this nation and our churches as we honor good mothers our men would begin again to take their rightful place of authority, not to lord over us, but to love and protect us as Christ loves and protects his bride. Nothing about Jesus is wimpy!
I have a wonderful husband who in many ways is a better spouse and parent than I am. We learn from each other and he honors and respects me, but I don't want to be the head of the house and I'm not to keen on believing I married a stupid man who needs me just to survive without killing himself. I am sure our purpose in life was greater than that!